Monday, February 18, 2019

Who Moved My Cheese?


This book contained only 94 pages. Very thin and small in size BUT it knocked my head a lot.

It categorised the character into 4. Sniffs, Scurry, Hem and Haw. Each name carries a different character which we can relate to our life and attitude. 

"Sniffs who is faster to sniffs out change early, scurry who scurries into action, Hem who denies and resists change as he fears it will lead to something worst, or Haw who learns to adapt in time when he sees changing can lead to something better."

Well, it's hard for us to admit which real character suits us specially when we are categorised either Hem or Haw. It's true and expected that we are always in denial as we always think that we are good.

It does not only applies to our own self but to everyone. Each character in this book is exist and we need to recognised ourselves and the important thing is it's never too late to change for good things. 

On our our journey in life, this book visualise it as if we are running in a maze looking for a cheese. Either we are willing to go out from comfort zone and keep looking for the new cheese or keep waiting for the cheese which was cease to exist and stick with what we believe and staying there and rotting away.

I rephrased the story by giving example in one organisation:

A = Boss who always demanding changes (sniffs)
B = Employee with good motivation and easily adopting changes (scurry)
C = Employee who always believe that he is right, work harder and no changes is necessary (Hem)
D = Employee who used to think he did right thing but later on able to realise that he need to change (Haw)

In work, it is normal that A will always demanding for changes to improve business and generate profit in any great way possible which A expecting B, C & D to adopt and to change.

As what was written in the book, almost all employee will resist and refuse to agree new rules and new idea as it will be requiring them to move out from their usual habits.

However, there is always a B. Who will rush into adapting changes and act towards the idea of changing. Probably B has nothing to worry, the changes has no effect on his life etc. So B will be flexible enough to adopt. OR it is just B character.

BUT, C will not be happy. C might be affected so much by the changes imposed. Either in usual work routine or in emotion. C has failed to identify the significance of changes as he think that what he has been doing for the past years is good enough to survive. No one is trying to persuade him that changes is necessary. Slowly C will drained out, job burn out, low motivation or even zero motivation to work. Productivity will never appear anymore.

While D is in 50 - 50. He used to think like C. But slowly when he managed to evaluate and trying too see things in different angle, he is able to adapt to changes. Slowly but surely.

In this context, I am in the opinion that no one should be blamed. Although from the character, we could see how strong Hem resist to changes but A should play a very important role. The ability of C in any area might be far different from A but A should lead everyone to be together. That is how team should work the things out. A shouldn't be expecting C to adapt to changes in a split second. A should be able to make C understand why changes is needed in the organisation.

Most important thing is we should always put others condition and ability into our shoes first before judging. IF let say A trying his level best to lift C up together with B & D, then C should also trying to understand and adapting the changes required.

It is undeniable that changes for the best is necessary all the time BUT together with that changes we have to plan and discuss the necessary steps to reach the goal TOGETHER.

Blaming each other came from attitude. It will be never ending until we can sit, relax and think calmly what was happening. Slowly catching up to adapt the changes in situation. Do not push to hard or otherwise every effort will just fade away and burn out.

Assuming a journey of life as running in the maze is an interesting thing to imagine. Even though we might be losing our way in the maze, we have to be brave and not to think too much. 

Do not afraid of what is going to happen, enjoy every moment, do not ever regret what was happened in the past. 

Good things in the past will remain as a good memory. Bad things also will remain in a memory as a lesson and not to repeat that in the future. All things happen for a reason and it depends on you how to colour your life and future.

Life is short to regret. Enjoy while you can. Do the best in every angle. Do not push too hard to be like others. You are unique in your own way and God specially created you for a very good reason. Always keep that in mind. 


13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do...



Recently, I've been reading motivational books. Since last year, I'm suffering from emotional pressure. Like everything went wrong. I was scolded numerous of times by everyone I felt. I have to admit that I was not able to focus on my things. It's just all went wrong. 

Early last month on January 2019, due to never ending emotional pressure from everywhere, I was decided to leave for short trip. I booked flight ticket for next day flight. 

After work, I rushed to the Airport for KL from Kota Kinabalu (KK). Once arrived, I am ready for check in. When handing over my documents to the flight check in staff, they was showing me a weird look and informed me that the flight is from KL instead of KK. My tickets was all wrong. Not one way, but return tickets. I'm blanked. I do not know what am I supposed to do. To change ticket also very expensive. I have to buy new return tickets. I stand somewhere in the Airport. I'm not able to think of any solution.

After about 20 minutes, I have decided to buy new return ticket. I have no choice as the ticket counter also about to close. I just can't stay in KK for now. I really need to leave. I called my non-biological sister in KL. She was expecting me to arrive at 8.45pm that day. She was shock when I told her the story but she's trying to calm me down. She advised me to be calm, accept the things happening, relax and do necessary action to settle the flight tickets things. 

She was graduated in psychological course (I don't know exactly what that course suppose to be named). She has that words soothing and calming. She always able to calm me down. Very patient in listening to my complains etc. I am thankful to have her beside me in all difficult situation. I feel relived after that and bought the tickets again.

As I walk around the Airport, I saw a bookstore. I glance through almost each and every rack in the bookstore until I saw 1 book which written on it "13 things mentally strong people don't do". I read some of the content and it's interesting. I decided to buy it. I kept reading until I reach KL. I can't wait to flip to another page. Each wordings affect me so much and I didn't realise that sometime I keep nodding in agreeing to the words that I'm reading. It's so motivating. I can feel it's real as it was written by someone who experienced a terrible and massive life challenge. I feel fresh as I compare my life challenge to the writer's life. The feeling is different. Like some heavy and big stone being removed from my head and eyesight. I am able to see things clearly, started to examine what's happening around me. Evaluating the things in different angle. 

That moment, I feel renewed. I wont allow outsider to decide what am I, what am I capable of. I wont allow them to read my mind. I will decide all of that because this is my life and it's my own decision. As I think back, there's a lot of thing in me influenced by others. My happiness likely depends on certain person and certain act.

I now realised that I can't force people to accept me, to think about me, to recognise and to see what am I doing. I cant ask a person to see how important and precious I am supposed to be. I will no longer allow idiotic act to happen but I will not regretting the things that I've done in the past also because I know I did not do that for recognition but that is how I treated the person I care and how I treated the person who no longer within my attention. I'm shoooooing away all those negative things.

Among wordings that affect me a lot is....you are responsible for your own happiness. It is your decision whether one's act influenced you in any way. Others is not supposed to be responsible for your unhappiness. It's true!